I Know How You Feel: The Joy and Heartbreak of Friendship in Women’s Lives (Hardcover)

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An expert's rich exploration of the intense, complicated landscape of women's friendships.

“Do I have enough friends?” “Why did my friendship end?” and “What makes a good friendship work?"

These are questions that F. Diane Barth, a psychotherapist widely recognized for her expertise in women’s relationships, fields all the time. In I Know How You Feel, she draws out engaging stories from a lively and diverse cast of women, many of whom speak about feelings they haven't shared before. She explores how life changes affect women's friendships in subtle and not-so-subtle ways. Interweaving examples from classic women’s literature to chick flicks, she provides grounded advice on how to manage betrayal and rejection, how to deal with a narcissistic or bossy friend, what to do when your best friend and your family don’t get along, how to let go of a friendship that has stopped working, and much more. A timely, empathetic guide for women in their twenties to their sixties and beyond.

About the Author

F. DIANE BARTH has worked as a psychotherapist in New York City for more than three decades. Her much-read Psychology Today blog is often on the subject of women’s friendships.

Praise For…

“In I Know How You Feel Diane Barth refuses easy assumptions and definitions about women’s friendships. The result is a gorgeous and vital exploration of the landscape of women’s desire, capacity, and essential need for connection with other women.” –Victoria Redel, author of Before Everything
 "I Know How You Feel is a smart, perceptive, and complex study of women’s friendships and how they enhance, color in, and shape our lives.” –Susan Shapiro, author of Unhooked and Lighting Up
“Diane Barth’s chapter on loss and rejection is incredibly insightful. I found it especially helpful in thinking about past relationships that didn’t seem to have a proper end.” –Gabourey Sidibe, author of This Is Just My Face
"Diane Barth helps us honor the richness, the joys, the everyday sustenance women's friendships give, as well as the complications and difficulties these intimate friendships can engender. A smart guide for women of all ages.” –Susie Orbach, author of Fat Is a Feminist Issue and co-author of Between Women

“Draw[ing] on interviews with diverse women to examine the 'magical, meaningful, and surprisingly difficult connections they make with friends' . . . a friendly, supportive guide for navigating relationships.”–Kirkus Reviews

"A lively and compassionate guide that defines what is meant by 'friend' in the 21st century . . . Barth's engaging guide introduces readers to many types of women and ideas and contains timely advice for anyone who wants to befriend a woman."Library Journal

“A compelling look at the ways in which women bond, Barth’s book is eye-opening and essential reading for anyone trying to build—or maintain—a strong social circle.”BookPage

Product Details
ISBN: 9780544870277
ISBN-10: 0544870271
Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
Publication Date: February 6th, 2018
Pages: 256
Language: English